Have you ever been in a situation whereby you felt left out? Maybe most of your peers seem to be moving ahead in life by getting their dream jobs but you are still in search of something not necessarily tied to your profession as long as it brings bread on the table and you can join the prestigious circle termed “working class”. Moreover, it could be that you seem to be the odd member of your family, some may say the “black sheep”. As if that is not enough you seem to be constantly on the run searching for something or someone to rescue you.

I don’t know about you, but I am sure if you have never felt this way then probably you know someone who has gone through such emotions. But hey, listen you are not alone, and as a young person, I am sure you will get it together one day soon. Why am I talking about feeling lost? You may ask. Well, in as much as we have just ushered in a new year and we all try to act as if everything is perfect, life sometimes throws hurdles at us, and if not careful enough then we might end up throwing in the towel.

A couple of days ago, a friend of mine confided in me that they had lost their zeal for life after searching for a job countless times without luck. Their arguing statement was that the working class group was too crowded and that it couldn’t accommodate fresh talent that was energetic on the table. In Swahili, he said “hiyo iko na wenyewe”, meaning: some jobs belong to a particular group of people. While the statement sounded defeatist, I couldn’t help but agree with him. The rates of unemployment are alarming in Africa and millions of youths are left out even after being decorated with various honors from academic institutions. It is also true that sometimes it’s the rich in the society who get what they want, and that, my friend, is the unfortunate nature of life.

This will result in the rich being richer as the poor scramble to grasp the little that is left. However, that shouldn’t be the case. What I have learned about life is that you have the power to build the life you want and the book the Secret by Rhonda Byrnes shows you this. This book contains hidden tips for transforming your life into one you desired life by calling things into existence. A wise saying goes “as a man thinketh so is he”. It is one book that I will recommend to anyone who feels hopeless in life.

Imagine saying yes to anything that builds you and that makes you a better person! Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes is one book that will enable you to constantly see growth in your personality and life in general. Sometimes you might be your own worst enemy, as they say, he who conquers others is great, he who conquers himself is mighty. Subsequently, you close doors to yourself that you didn’t even know were always open. I know it’s easy to see the faults in others and point fingers but sometimes self-evaluation is necessary to enable you to know which areas of your life are your strong points and which definitely need to be worked on. This book talks about how a once shy young woman who constantly hid behind various walls such as mediocrity, depression and loneliness decided to change her life through self-actualization. This was done through a series of soul-searching and being comfortable with the person she was to whom we now know; the woman behind Thursday night TV takeovers with amazing shows like Greys Anatomy. Scandal and How to Get Away with Murder. Know who you are as an individual, know what value you add to life because we all have an important role to contribute to the elevation of humanity.

In as much as you have set appealing resolutions in most areas of your life, I would advise you to take a moment and self-reflect on your being and deal with the emotions that constantly torment you as an individual. It is okay to ask for help. As I have come to learn, there is nothing new under the sun. Read books that will contribute to your personal growth and development and stay in pursuit of the things that set your soul on fire.